It's customary in the United States culturally to say,
"I'm doing fine."
Or "living the dream."
Or another greeting of the like to the question. "How are you?"
This may be the case elsewhere as well. I can only speak from my cultural lens.
It's asked virtually in every interaction with anyone in the USA. While answers like these are the norm and the expectation.
But, when that question is answered how many of us are actually telling the truth?
Are you really alright? Good? Fine? Living the dream?
Or are you covering up how your really feeling, to make others comfortable. To conform to the norm of society. The norm of "being ok" all the time.
I can say in the past this has been the case for me. I have lied, I have hide my true feelings, stressors, and suffering from others. Just to go with the flow of the normalized answers.
And, I bet it's safe to assume many of you have as well.
What is the cost of answering in such a way? Does the mind and soul feel the lie? Does it hurt?
For me it does. It hurts not to be honest with how I feel and then in the long run it hurts me more.
It's ok to not be ok. It's ok to be honest with yourself and others about how you feel.
Here, I'll go first.
I feel lost.
And I don't know where my path is going.
I feel like I'm living in a fog of blindness.
Not sure the direction in front of me or behind anymore.
Good things are shaking up my life. These things are perfect, but the way I feel inside as a result can be compared to tenderized meat, or a caterpillar like mush before transformation.
I know in my heart everything works out for all of us in the end. Everything is perfect as it is now for each of us to grow, change, and become our most authentic self.
However, as that process unfolds it becomes harder to deny how you feel than it is to admit it. Are we doing others a favor by not being honest about our feelings or ourselves? Who are we protecting, and who are we harming?
So, I will say it one more time.
ITS OK TO NOT BE OK.
So now that you've made it this far. May I ask you this, "Are you ok?" "How are you doing?" Please answer honestly, I love you and will not judge you.